1 Samuel 20
After all the messengers and Saul had prophesied, David fled from Naioth to Ramah and he sought out Jonathan. David asked Jonathan why his father, Saul, was so determined to kill him. Jonathan felt that David was misunderstanding the situation so they developed a plan for Jonathan to discover how upset Saul really was.
The next day was the start of the new moon and traditionally all the leaders gathered and ate together each day for several days. In order to test Saul, David was going to be absent for the next 2 days. After that Jonathan and David developed another plan of how Jonathan would let David know if it was safe to return to the palace.
At the meal the next day Saul did notice David was absent but the Bible says he just though he couldn’t come that day and didn’t say anything. However when David was absent the next day as well, Saul asked where he was. As they had planned, Jonathan tells his father that David had requested to return home for a family feast and Jonathan had given him permission. Now comes the moment of truth. If Saul still likes David he will accept this answer, if not, he will be angry. Unfortunately, David was correct. When Saul received the news he became furious! He began yelling at Jonathan for taking David’s side and even threw a spear at him! Poor Jonathan became angry himself and left the table. Sadly Jonathan now knew the truth; his father was determined to wrongly destroy David.
The following day, Jonathan took a young man out to a prearranged field to shoot arrows. He shot 3 arrows and sent the young man to fetch them. Jonathan and David had arranged that if Jonathan yelled to the young man that he had gone too far, come back to get the arrows, then David was safe. However Jonathan sadly had to yell to the young man to keep going, the arrows were further away. This meant that David’s life was in danger and he should flee.
After the young man had collected the arrows, Jonathan sent him back to the city and David came out of hiding. Previously they had promised to always look out for each other and their families. Before David went into hiding, the 2 friends reconfirmed their commitment to each other and sadly parted ways.
David and Jonathan were true friends. Even when Jonathan didn’t think David was right he listened to him and took his words seriously. Even though Jonathan’s father was seeking to kill him, David was kind and loving toward Jonathan. These 2 men knew that friendship is valuable and treated their friends the way they wanted to be treated!
List 5 ways you want a friend to treat you. Are you treating your friends that way? Try hard to be the friend you want to have as a friend!