In Genesis 24, Abraham begins seeking a bride for his son Isaac. In our world that seems odd. Parents don’t find spouses for their children in our culture any more. But in Abraham’s time parents often arranged the marriage of their children and often for different reasons than love. People often married to create alliances and to end wars. The belief was you wouldn’t do something to harm your child so if your children married your friendship and support was sealed. Abraham’s reasons were a little different. He was looking for a companion for Isaac and wanted heirs to become a nation, but Abraham was picky about who would be chosen. He didn’t want a woman from the cultures around him. He wanted a wife for Isaac that would have been raised with similar values. So he sent his servant back to his homeland to find a woman from the culture he was raised in. The servant was concerned that the woman (and her family) wouldn’t want to leave her homeland to come to a foreign place. But Abraham insisted that the servant either bring the bride back or not arrange a marriage at all.
When the servant gets back to Abraham’s homeland he asks God for a sign as to which woman to choose. He asks a young maiden named Rebekah for a drink and she agrees and offers to water his camels too. Now that is no small job! There are 10 camels and they drink a lot!! She doesn’t just turn on a spigot either. She has to draw water from the well, by hand and carry it to all the camels. The servant has found a woman with a servant’s heart (something pleasing to God). He tells her his mission and she takes him home. Only after her family approves does she take all the gifts and agree to marry Isaac. In our world if someone offered you marriage that had obvious wealth (or anything else impressive) would you wait for family approval? You should! Rebekah demonstrated godly behavior in her willingness to serve and be kind to a stranger and in honoring her parent’s (family’s) opinions. We could all learn a lesson in making wise choices by seeking godly council first. Find someone in your life with more experience and ask for their guidance. God will honor and bless your life when you are following His guidelines. Just like He honored and blessed Rebekah by providing her a godly, wealthy husband.
Who do you go to for advice? Parents tell you kids who you go to for advice. Then talk with them about who they should go to for advice when they feel they can’t come to you!